“A Christmas Carol” by Charles Dickens was one of my favorite Christmas tales as a kid. I used to read it every year or watch a Disney’s animated version of it. The lesson I got out of this story is that our past has determined who we are in the present, and our present determines the person we’ll become in the future. Ebenezer Scrooge was given the opportunity to overview his past, his present and have a glimpse of his future; it made him realize that the most important things in Life are the the people that share the journey with us every day. 

I have to be honest with you: ‘Xmas is a very melancholic time for me, I wake up in the morning and it makes me cry. While everyone is out there celebrating holidays with their families, there’s a big void that reopens in my soul. I miss my parents, the ‘xmas lunch with my family, my grandma’s cooking and her sister’s Raviolis, our fights about politics around the table which would always end up with gleeful cheers, dances, games and films. I miss that sense of warmth that only a family and the people you love can give you. But then, I start thinking about all the friends and the people in my Life that have given me the same kind of love and heated up my heart again. They say friends are the family we choose and I agree with that. To me this is what ‘Xmas is all about: a moment to acknowledge and give some love to all the people that are important in our lives, for the real presents are them, not the wrapped boxes sitting under the tree. 

So this year, in order to refill my void, dispel my sadness and transform it into a big smile, I’ve decided to accomplish my own trip across time, guided by the three ghosts of the past, the present and the future. Dear friends, allow me me to be your chaperon in my own Christmas Carol. I would like to introduce you to some incredible characters.

They have enriched my Life with memories and feelings, we have laughed and cried together, we have fought and made peace, we have traveled the world, we have witnessed births and deaths. Wow, what a journey! It feels like every time we have encountered there was a whole Life to Live. It is my wish to pay a tribute to these amazing human beings and thank them for walking into my Life and becoming part of my Family. They are the best gifts I’ve ever received, they are a piece of my heart, they have fueled my soul with emotions and I love them more than words can express. 

My Xmas wish for you is to have a family and incredible friends like these ones and to keep creating never-ending memories together. 

With much Love,

Merry Christmas

Coxy

’Til the next one 😉

PS. There are so many friends whom I’ve shared incredible memories with. So please, don’t take it personal if you are not featured in this post, naming each person I’m grateful for would take me pages and days. Know that I do love you dearly and I cherish the time we’ve spent together, even if it was just for a short time on the path.  

NONNA CAMILLA, who lived 103. She drank a glass of red wine everyday and hid grappa in her closet. She taught me elegance and curiosity.
MY MOM ENRICA AND MY DAD GIANCARLO, IN A TIME THEY WERE IN LOVE. THAT’S WHEN I WAS BORN 🙂
MY AUNT LUISA, (MY MOM’S TWINSIE) AND ALL MY OTHER UNCLES AND AUNTS (I DON’T HAVE A PIC WHERE THEY’RE ALL TOGETHER & THIS ONE IS TOO CUTE)
PAOLA – MY BEST FRIEND FOR 25 YEARS, my sister. WE’VE ALWAYS LIVED FOR ART SUPPORTING EACH OTHER EVERY STEP OF THE WAY.
ALBERTO – MY BEST FRIEND EVER FOR 25 YEARS. HE KNOWS ME BETTER THAN ANYONE ELSE. HE’S INSPIRED ME, HE’D LIFTED ME UP EVERY TIME I FELL, HE opened THE DOOR ON MY DREAMS AND ENCOURAGED ME TO FOLLOW THEM. AND HE ALWAYS MAKES ME LAUGH.
ROSSELLA – MY DAD’S WIFE. SHE’S ALWAYS LOVED ME LIKE I WERE HER OWN DAUGHTER AND I LOVE HER LIKE A MOM.
CAROLINE – EVERY TIME WE MEET IT’S IN A DIFFERENT city OF THE WORLD. OUR FRIENDSHIP GOES BEYOND SPACE AND TIME. JUST WONDERING WHAT THE NEXT DESTINATION WILL BE?
THE GIRLS – STEFANIA (WHO’S TAKING THE PIC), Silvia, ELISABETTA, ALICE, MARTA. OUR GIRLS NIGHTS ARE WILDER THAN SEX AND THE CITY.  WATCH OUT GUYS 😉
MARTA – MY LITTLE SISTER. WE LIKE TO TAKE CARE OF EACH OTHER (AND GOSSIP :D)
BRUNO – MY FRIEND, BROTHER & PARTNER IN CRIME. WHEN WE WORK TOGETHER WE ALWAYS CREATE SOMETHING MAGIC, AND WHEN WE DON’T WORK IT’S 80’S MUSIC, CHOCOLATE AND BEING “FUSISSIMI”
MEAGAN – MY SWEET BABY. THIS PIC SAYS HOW WE ROLL TOGETHER ON SET and when we’re OFF SET SHE’S SOMEONE I love to HUG AND TALK TO FOR HOURS.
MANU OR NU BRAZ – 20 YEARS OF FRIENDSHIP HERE. THE SOUND OF IT IS BOSSA, AND a SONG called “DONNA” WHICH HE DEDICATED TO ME ONCE AND EXPLAINS ME SO WELL.
VALERIO – SOMEONE WHO TOOK ME BEYOND PHYSICAL BORDERS AND OPENED A MYSTICAL WORLD BEFORE MY EYES. all HIS TEACHINGS KEEP ECHOING in my soul WHEN THERE’S SILENCE.
MICHAEL – THE BEST ACTING TEACHER I’VE EVER HAD. HE’S SHONE A LIGHT ON MY INNER AND DARK WORLD AND HE MADE ME SEE ITS BEAUTY. HE TAUGHT ME TO TRANSFORM IT INTO ART.

 

ADAM & RANDI – WHOM I LIKE TO CALL MY ADOPTIVE PARENTS BECAUSE THEY WELCOMED ME INTO THEIR FAMILY AS IF I WERE THEIR OWN DAUGHTER.

 

 

MAX – TO USE HIS OWN WORDS: HE JUST WALKED IN BUT HE CAME TO STAY and HE’S SUCH A PRECIOUS FRIEND. 

 

NANCY – MY NANA. SHE REINVENTED HER LIFE AT 60 AND TAUGHT ME THAT ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE AT ANY AGE. SHE’S ONE OF THE MOST BADASS WOMEN I’VE EVER MET!
VINCENT – MY BOO. BESIDES BEING A GREAT PERSONAL ASSISTANT, HE’S TEACHING ME EVERYTHING ABOUT HIP HOP. THIS PIC IS A DAY AT WORK.

NONNA NUCCIA – WHOM AS A KID I CALLED “NONNONA”. SHE READ ME FAIRY TALES AND TAUGHT ME TO COOK THE MOST DELICIOUS PLATES.

 

 

YUX – OUR RELATIONSHIP LASTED 8 YEARS AND I CHERISH EVERY SINGLE MOMENT I SPENT WITH HIM. HE’LL ALWAYS BE MY FAMILY AND MY BEST FRIEND.
SAPINO – A LITTLE FROG THAT TRAVELS WITH ME AROUND THE WORLD. HE MAKES PEOPLE SMILE AND HE’S MY ALTER EGO
LUCA – MORE LIKE A BROTHER THAN A COUSIN. WE GREW UP TOGETHER and he hates this picture but i love it.  
ALBERTO, THEA & JULE – THE BOARD READS “HAPPY BIRTHDAY AUNTIE CHIARA” AND THEA IS HOLDING THE BOOK I GAVE HER. THE DAY JULE WAS HOLDING THEA IN HER ARMS AND SHE WAS ONLY 8 HOURS OLD HAS BEEN ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL DAYS OF MY LIFE.
GIULIO, SIMONA & GIORGIO – MY BROS & MY SIS. SAME DAD, DIFFERENT MOMS BUT THAT DIDN’T TEAR US APART, DESPITE DISTANCE AND DIFFERENCES WE ALWAYS LOVE EACH OTHER.
VIOLA – MY LITTLE NIECE, SHE’S ALMOST 5 NOW BUT THIS PIC REMINDS ME OF THE DAY WE MET.
THE GIRLS AGAIN – (STEFANIA WAS MISSING FROM THE PREVIOUS PICTURE 😉
MARTA, LA SIGNOVA -OH MY… THE WAVES OF LAUGHTERS WE HAD TOGETHER! IT WAS CONSTANT COMEDY, EVEN WHEN THERE WAS DRAMA. HA HA HA 😀
MARINA – THE DAY I MET HER I HAD THE FEELING WE ALREADY KNEW EACH OTHER FROM A PREVIOUS LIFE. I LOVE HER BECAUSE EVERY TIME SHE’S AROUND, SHE gives me the ANSWERS TO MY QUESTIONS.
LUCA (& BRUNO AGAIN) – MY BOYS. WELL, WHEN I’M WITH THEM I KINDA FEEL LIKE I’M THE THIRD BOY. LOL . THIS PIC IS A LOVELY MEMORY OF OUR TRIP TO SAN DIEGO.
IMELDA (& HER KIDS) – ANOTHER SOUL MATE WHO GAVE ME HER HEART TO REST ON IN THE MOST PAINFUL TIME OF MY LIFE. SHE IS infinite.
NICK – YOUTH, FOOLISHNESS AND GLAMOUR WERE OUR PASSWORD. HE’S THE ONE WHO gave ME the nickname “COXY” AND YOU’LL GET TO KNOW MORE ABOUT HIM very SOON on this blog 😉
MARTHIS, LUCA & CHIARA (WHO’S PROBABLY TAKING THE PICTURE) – THE FOUR MUSKETEERS. WE STARTED AS COLLEAGUES at FERRE’ AND WE ENDED AS BEST FRIENDS.
MASAYO – SHE KNOWS HOW TO TAKE CARE OF ME AND MAKE ME FEEL BEAUTIFUL. EVERY TIME SHE CUTS MY HAIR I FEEL LIKE BB.
OSCAR – AT 95 HE’S THE BEST TENNIS COACH I HAVE. HE HAS TRAINED PETE SAMPRAS WHEN HE WAS A KID. HIS LIFE STORY IS A BOOK TO WRITE. WHAT A MAN.
UGO – A FRIEND, A MENTOR AND A GREAT CREATIVE MIND. HIS TASTE IS EXQUISITE AND EVERYTHING THAT HE SURROUNDS HIMSELF WITH IS BEAUTIFUL. ESPECIALLY PEOPLE.
SANDY – WE MET BECAUSE HER MOM STALKED ME ON FACEBOOK (AND I’M SO HAPPY SHE DID). SHE’S my SMART, BADASS baby and she MAKES MY WORK SO EASY! 

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LOVE

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